Three Selfish Wishes

Idea stolen shamelessly from Rainy Saturday.

1. This is going to sound crude, but I really wish I made more money. Given I work in non-profit, that’s not going to happen unless I change jobs. It’s an industry I chose so I have no right to complain. I’m not looking to make six-figures here. It would just be a nice change to have a bit more leeway. I would like to not have to think about every dollar I spend as much. Some breathing room in case of an emergency, you know? This feels incredibly selfish as I know we’re pretty lucky. In today’s economy it could be a lot worse. Somehow, no matter what has happened, we’ve managed to stay afloat. But then, I guess that’s why these wishes are selfish.

2. I wish I lived in a detached house with a ginormous fenced back yard. Our current house is fine and the neighbours who share the wall are tolerant but it doesn’t feel permanent. I want a home all to ourselves so our dog can chase the cat without disturbing anyone else. I want a yard so we can adopt more dogs to chase more cats. We don’t need more space, not really. However, more privacy would be excellent, please.

3. I wish I had more time to read. There are so many books I want to read that I haven’t. So many that I haven’t heard of yet that I know I will love. So many that haven’t even been written yet that I know I will want to read in the future. There was a quote I read on another blog a long time ago that expressed this feeling. I wish I could remember the blog. (A fourth wish?) She said something along the lines of, “if I heard the world was about to end, I’d probably head straight home to read another book.” It’s a worry I have, truly, that I’m not going to be able to finish them all before I die. Why this bothers me so much I don’t know, but it does.

What  perfectly selfish wishes do you have? I don’t want to see anything about saving others or curing cancer. This time it’s all about you.

23 thoughts on “Three Selfish Wishes

  1. I am totally with you on the money thing… Working for myself means that every single dollar in and out has to be closely watched, which makes it tough to justify buying anything that isn’t a need! The other thing would be two more hours every day. I’d love to have two quiet hours to myself to read a magazine, take a bubble bath, take a nap, whatever! Those are my two selfish wishes!


  2. I have two..
    1st – I wish I had more time to do everything I have to and what I want to….
    2nd – I wish that I could spend less time in my car, by having my 18 mile commute take less than at least an hour each way….


  3. Yeah…my mom used to work for a non-profit for 8 years and finally left cuz she just got tired of having to worry abouts the green papers all the time. It was hard, though. Cuz she believed in what she did but after awhile, she decided to she wanted more money and more time with us and my dad.

    For me, my totally selfish wish would be to never have to go into a totally new place or situation again. Most of the time, it’s A-okay once I’ve checked it all out but I just hate those first few minutes (or, well, hours).

    For my mom, her totally selfish wish would be to move out in the middle of (almost) nowhere and have lots of land and not have to work and just write and read to her heart’s content!

    Wiggles & Wags,


  4. 3 Selfish wishes:

    1) I wish I could just “be” without worrying about what I’m not doing well enough.

    2) See wish #1.

    3) See wish #2.

    Very thought-provoking post. Thanks to you and Rainy Saturday.


  5. I wish my dog would just TRUST ME already. Katya is a rescued Husky with a possible history of abuse, and bonded very strongly with my wife, but remains fearful of me — even though I’ve been her primary caregiver. I’m smart enough to not take it personally, and have more-or-less resigned myself to being tolerated at best — but oh, if only she could trust me enough to love me as I love her.
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  6. 1) Yes, more money but only to pay off the bills and debt I now have; after that, I am fine where I would be….
    2) “If you want things to be different, you need to stop doing the same things” or something to that effect. This hit me the other day. I have wanted CHANGE in my life for a long time. Am following the suggestions from another blog to plan 2011 for me and mine (under God, of course!). I am not good with change – my wish is to follow through effectively. ‘
    2) Agreed – more time for books, less time on Internet surfing (my fav blogs I need to follow!) – more time for books and write reviews on them.
    4) In 10 years, I would like to be in an apartment with two dogs, volunteering at a shelter….let’s talk about 4 acres with an acre fenced in for the pack :0.
    thanks to you and Rainy Saturday. good thoughts – though my wishes may change by the end of the day….
    oh, I forgot 5) world peace.


  7. I just want to say your wishes are not selfish- mainly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more money.

    Money is not bad or evil or dirty- I want all KINDS of money. Absolutely nuthin’ wrong with that. There is a lot of money out there- no reason why more shouldn’t head in your direction.


  8. We also would like a single family home. We wouldn’t have to worry about our neighbors and divying up who fixes and cleans what around the building. Though in Chicago a single family home is a lot of money, and I’m guessing we’re going to stay put for quite awhile.


  9. First, Thanks for following my blog. Nothing wrong with wanting more money, I’m with you there! My wish might sound silly but I wish time slowed down. The older I get it seems like time is zooming by and I’m accomplishing less every day. I also wish I had the energy and enthusiasm to take on the day I had 20 years ago. Almost all my family has passed on and I wish I could be with them again even for smallest amount of time. Great Post!


  10. wanting more money scares me. i fear that i’ll never have “enough.” there was a study featured on NPR about the happy income. that income is 75K. people that made less than that were unhappy and those who made more were also unhappy. it’s a neverending struggle with the dollar.

    my selfish wish would have to be the detached home with a large yard. nothing crazy huge – 3 or 4 bedrooms and a fenced in yard for puppies and kiddies to run around in.

    whenever i think, like really sit hard and think, about the things i want or the selfish wishes i want to make, the more i realize that i do have it pretty good. years ago i was in a horrible relationship and all i wished for was the perfect person to come into my life and love me the way i deserved. and fortunately, i did find that. i think the things we really want in life (and deserve) come our way. i have a friend in recovery who talked to me about The Secret, a lot. he said if you envision what you want (put it into a collage, write it down, etc.) you just end up working towards it. can’t really explain it, but it’s something to think about.


  11. I wish I wasn’t addicted to Farmville, then I’d have more time for keeping up with my favourite blogs and doing some blogging on mine. Next time my ‘dog food lady’ begs me to be a neighbour on something I’m going to say no! That’s another wish, that I could say no!!! I’d like to be a bit assertive and to not worry so much about other people’s opinion of me. And I’d love it to be Spring all year round:-) Great post as always!


  12. What a wonderful post! I love doing this because it feels so close to Creative Visualisation….
    I’m with your wishes, actually, but I would love to write a column for a biiiiiiig London newspaper.
    We can dream 🙂


  13. 3 selfish wishes? here goes.
    #1 make more money doing what I love
    #2 have certain trouble making people simply disappear from my life. I don’t need the stress they create in my life.
    #3 buy a bigger house, mine is too small.


  14. I also wish we had more money. Or at least some! LOL I wish we had a lot of money, we have great plans. Fixing up our property up north, building a house and having our dogs enjoy the place all the time.

    If we had even more money, like winning a lottery, we’d build a teaching hospital for our vet and doggy rehab center.

    I don’t understand people in the movies who turn down money because it’s too much. It is not if you do something good with it.

    Most importantly though, I wish Jasmine was healthy and pain and ailment free once for all.


  15. I wish I could be outside more! The weekends just aren’t enough, and in the wintertime the constant darkness really wears on me.
    I also, like probably everyone, wish I had more free time to devote to cooking, my dogs, and creativity. And just like you- raeding!


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  16. My three wishes are pretty much exactly your three wishes– more money to finance my dog obsession, to not share walls with people and have a large backyard for fun and frisbee and agility practicing, and to have the time to read the ever-growing and already-enormous piles of books that I have been accumulating.


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