In an effort to get my head together and focus on what is essential to me, as opposed to flaking out on the couch and blowing everything off, I recently participated in a 21 Day Project hosted by none other than happiness guru, Gretchen Rubin. Those in the Petosphere maybe be more familiar with the fantastic piece of work Ms. Rubin inspired, The Puppiness Project, over at Something Wagging This Way Comes. But I digress. Whether you have heard of her before or not, I think the she has a worthwhile perspective and insights almost equal to the writer of the aforementioned dog blog.
Throughout the 21 days, Gretchen (after the therapeutic journey she put me through I feel like we should be on a first-name basis) asked many probing questions to help me learn more about myself, my motivations, and how my brain works. It wasn’t always easy to come up with an answer. Though the project is long over, I am still puzzling over some of them. Okay, all of them.
As I say, it’s been a process.
One of the questions that has most preoccupied me is the one that asked me to come up with twelve personal commandments. Twelve! Gretch – yep, we’re tight enough for nicknames too – wrote in great length about her own on her website as well.
I love the idea behind it, having mantras to return to when things get stressful or confusing, but I think I might be a six or seven commandment kind of gal. Here is what I have come up with so far:
1. Always, always, always be kind
2. Dealing is better than delaying
3. In order to get to the end of it, you have to go through it (I ripped this from Suzanne Collins’ Catching Fire)
5. The more I put myself out there and authentically be myself, the more I give others the permission to do the same (I ripped this from the brilliant author of The Daily Dog Blog)
6. Revel in the moment
7. Do it anyway
8. You can handle it
9. You are not alone
10. You are capable of helping
11. Be grateful
12. Nothing changes if nothing changes
Hmm… Not sure I am happy with them. But it’s a start!
Do you have any personal commandments? I’d love to hear them!